Accommodating me

The plan was to walk in, sign on, apologise, and get straight into work. My Supervisor shook their head, “No, that’s not it.”That led to a guessing game of me running through everything I could think of, getting steadily more agitated and stressed.I said hello, put my bag down, and started to sign on. I didn’t realise that my voice was becoming high-pitched until I was told off for raising my voice at them.Sometimes I get side-eyed for being blunt or too direct, and it took a long time before I figured out that questions like ‘does this make my butt look big? I had always thought that when trying on a potential purchase, the would-be buyer would want to know the draw-backs before spending actual money on something.

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Social interaction is hard, but I’m doing my best.”What I didn’t say: “I’ve spent thirty-odd years trying to mimic Neurotypical behaviour. The fact that every one of you has told me that “I don’t look autistic” when I informed you as a courtesy and requested that you please tell me if I’m doing something wrong, and praise me for being so functional and such a good worker, suggests that I succeed most of the time. The strange part (at least for me) is that for all that a lot of Neurotypicals act like accommodating us is an act worthy of Martyrdom, rather than basic courtesy, they get even more offended when we limit our interactions with them to take the burden away.

I am told that I need to stop dominating the conversation, and then told that I need to interact more.

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W hen I was 20, I dropped out of university and became a model.A square has 4 corners, to make a square from a circle with a stitch count of 12, a corner will be made in every 3rd stitch.To keep the work flat, we still need to increase each round by 12 stitches, so we need to increase by 3 stitches in each corner. To make a 1 row DC circle into a square: When your circle is complete, [ch3, dc, ch1, 2x dc] into same stitch (first corner made), dc into next 2 stitches, [2xdc, ch1, 2xdc] into next stitch (corner made), dc into next 2 stitches, corner, dc into next 2 stitches, corner, dc into next 2 st, slst to join.That it was just our Supervisor’s way of interacting with us, that I shouldn’t take everything so seriously, and that “It’s just a skill you need to work on.You’re always asking us to accomodate your Autism; maybe you need to work around us sometimes.”What I said: “I am working on it. Unfortunately, long experience has taught me that no matter what the realities of the situation are, pointing such things out results in being treated as an unreasonable drama-queen.After apologising for and explaining (not for the first time) that I was unaware I had been doing so, I turn and ask the two co-workers bearing amused witness to the lecture how their day was. You grilled me to the point of tears because I’d neglected to ask how your day had been?

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