Dating my husband while separated
I was the reason my wife of 14 years and I separated.
I could try to convince you otherwise, and probably do a good job (I’m a writer), but I will be honest and say that I was a jerk for most of those 14 years.
We were both hesitant to get into something romantic right away given his situation, but after 3 weeks of hanging out 3-4 days a week just as friends (no touching, just hours and hours of fun and deep conversation) we kissed and became a couple.
We have the same values, future plans/goals, hobbies, etc.
Ignoring my problems would not make them any less acute.
Year after year I tried to pretend life was good or that at some other point in my life, I would “get it together.” That day never seemed to come, and the problems got bigger.
I didn't know how to fix the problems, but ignoring them made everything worse ... Then, when we separated, I was forced to admit all of the things I had control over that I was deliberately denying to myself.
I was then able to sit down and figure out how I could make changes to myself, and then to our relationship.
The first step in fixing any problem is acknowledging the problem exists.
In relationships, a lot of times the problem is with us, not our partner.
The thing is this: We are both in our early 30’s…I have never been married, he was married for 5 years, together for 10.
They met young and had totally different views on everything.
I moved in with a friend and was still too selfish to realize the most precious thing in my life was slipping away.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating